Journey of Self Discovery

  Toxic Positivity Vs. Healthy Positivity Toxic positivity is a term used to describe an over-emphasis on optimism, where someone is consistently trying to put a positive spin on negative events or circumstances. Phrases such as “Don’t worry, everything will be okay” “Cheer up!” "Come on see the positive side" "Don't be weak, Stay strong" "Be Positive" "Its ok" "I am fine" "Everything happens for a reason" "Be a man" "What's wrong with you, you are upset for such a small thing" "Don't cry" are used to make the situation or the person feel better without truly recognizing the other person's emotions. While it may seem like this is a helpful response, it can be damaging in the long run, as it doesn’t allow people to truly process their emotions and instead encourages them to ignore them and shut down all their feelings and experiences. Positivity becomes toxic when we jump steps. W...

  We have very often heard and used 'You are my Good Girl no?' or 'Be a Good Boy'. I saw a label stuck on a small cycle "Aakash is a Good Boy". I felt it is such a burden to that boy. I get the good intention of the parents behind sticking that sticker. They are using it as an affirmation. On the other hand, if you see we all get stuck with this Good boy/girl label. Due to this label, you can't say No to people, or you are constantly trying to please everyone, or you find it difficult to be ok if someone disagrees or dislikes you or you try really hard to be in the good books of people. This is also called Good Boy/Girl Syndrome. This syndrome makes a person feels like they must be compliant and accommodating in order to be accepted or liked. While it is admirable to be helpful and kind to others, this syndrome can be damaging to your mental health if you feel like you have to give up your own needs in order to please others. In this blog post, we'll...

My friend says “I wanna talk to you, will call you in the evening.” My mind goes on a ride of overthinking. What is it? Did I do something? The last time when I spoke to her she was not herself, maybe she was upset with me. What if she says she does not want to be my friend? People always leave me. I know I am not good enough to be anyone’s friend. But she was rude to me, why should I understand her always. I feel so stressed, what does she want to talk to me about?   Is it about…… This train of thoughts has no stop. In my head, these can go on and on till my friend comes and tell me, “Hey listen, I wanted your red saree for a function.” So what stops us from enjoying life fully? There are many things but one thing which is predominantly stopping us is ‘Overthinking’. This is a very common habit in most of us. We are so used to overthinking….. every aspect, every situation, every thought, and every comment we need to overthink. We need to know every nitty-gritty, every deta...

Watch this   My house is in a residential area. Many children came to the Discover Me Dussehra camp. I was basking in joy of doing a learning mela. It was an amazing experience for all the parents and children. When I was sitting and reflecting on the day... My phone rang. It was the house owner. He said he got coupon of calls from neighbours complaining that we are making a lot of noise. I was disturbed. I had just started my center. I sat with a heavy heart. To clear myself and shift my energy I called my friend and ranted and ranted and ranted. After 20 mins of complaining I realised why am I trying to solve this alone. How can I involve children in this problem solving.  On Monday we all sat down and made a list of things we can do to solve this. Some suggested we can make posters to control noise, some said we will not scream,jump or run. Some said we can talk to neighbours. We made our plans. We discussed what can we talk to neighbours, what information do we need ...

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Click here to watch the video She came saying "I want to conduct a session because I want to be the boss. I want everyone to listen to me." We discussed what session, what would be the topic, how long will be the session, what preparation is required, what will the the flow of the session and much more..  She did not know what to prepare. She can asking me"Pineapple I don't know what to do". I told her to make 15 questions about dance and set the timer for 10 mins ... we decided that next 10 mins she will only think about dance and wait for the brain to giver her ideas. After 10 mins ⏳ she was still making questions. Happily she said "I like when I get ideas". She researched for the questions. She waited patiently for her time. She convinced and invited everyone to attend her session. She conducted what she had prepared. As a facilitator and an observer it was a joy to see this complete process.  #unschooling #selfdirectededucation #selfdirectedlearn...