Journey of Self Discovery

  Toxic Positivity Vs. Healthy Positivity Toxic positivity is a term used to describe an over-emphasis on optimism, where someone is consistently trying to put a positive spin on negative events or circumstances. Phrases such as “Don’t worry, everything will be okay” “Cheer up!” "Come on see the positive side" "Don't be weak, Stay strong" "Be Positive" "Its ok" "I am fine" "Everything happens for a reason" "Be a man" "What's wrong with you, you are upset for such a small thing" "Don't cry" are used to make the situation or the person feel better without truly recognizing the other person's emotions. While it may seem like this is a helpful response, it can be damaging in the long run, as it doesn’t allow people to truly process their emotions and instead encourages them to ignore them and shut down all their feelings and experiences. Positivity becomes toxic when we jump steps. W...

  We have very often heard and used 'You are my Good Girl no?' or 'Be a Good Boy'. I saw a label stuck on a small cycle "Aakash is a Good Boy". I felt it is such a burden to that boy. I get the good intention of the parents behind sticking that sticker. They are using it as an affirmation. On the other hand, if you see we all get stuck with this Good boy/girl label. Due to this label, you can't say No to people, or you are constantly trying to please everyone, or you find it difficult to be ok if someone disagrees or dislikes you or you try really hard to be in the good books of people. This is also called Good Boy/Girl Syndrome. This syndrome makes a person feels like they must be compliant and accommodating in order to be accepted or liked. While it is admirable to be helpful and kind to others, this syndrome can be damaging to your mental health if you feel like you have to give up your own needs in order to please others. In this blog post, we'll...